All the Things We Didn't Say

Nominee for the 2025 Mississippi Institute of Arts and Letters Award for Life Writing

In this poignant and introspective dual memoir, Marion Garrard Barnwell embarks on a deeply personal journey. Inspired by the memoir of her maternal grandmother, Mary DuBose Trice Clark, affectionately known as “Ganny,” the narratives, though separated by decades, are brought together to offer readers a unique and moving exploration of growing up in Mississippi and the intersections of family, motherhood, and self-discovery.

Clark’s memoir, penned in 1956, offers readers a glimpse into the past, telling the story of her life in Mississippi with unwavering commitment to “just plain facts.” Her narrative traverses the landscapes of Okalona, Nettleton, Verona, and Tupelo, revealing their histories and the vibrant tapestry of her life while artfully sidestepping the complexities of her relationships and emotional vulnerabilities. Reflecting on an era when discussions of emotion and self-awareness were often shrouded in reticence, Clark’s story leaves a void in which Barnwell seeks to uncover the unspoken truths that shaped their family dynamics.

Written at the age of seventy-seven, the same age as her grandmother when she wrote her memoir, Barnwell’s writing emerges as a response to the enigmatic silence within her grandmother’s narrative. It paints a vivid and expansive picture of her own life in the Mississippi Delta while also addressing profound themes of alcoholism, racism, shared family history, and the intricate dynamics between generations of women. As Barnwell weaves her own memoir into the fabric of this book, she takes readers on her emotional journey of self-discovery and truth-telling that leads to healing. All the Things We Didn’t Say: Two Memoirs is a testament to the power of storytelling and a captivating ode to the enduring human spirit and the timeless pursuit of understanding the intricate threads that connect us across generations.